HOW DO YOU SET YOURSELF UP TO CREATE YOUR “BEST YEAR EVER” AT THE START OF A NEW YEAR?
Karen and Michelle talk about what the concept of creating your “best year” really means, and how to focus your attention on creating success in your business that’s truly meaningful.
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Karen Parker
Hi, I’m Karen Curry Parker. I’m here with Michelle Vandepas. We are the founders of the matrix, the world’s first virtual co working space and we are talking this morning about your best year ever. And what does that really mean? So, talk to me, Michelle, what is it? What is its 2019? Gonna be your best year ever? Yeah, who knows? Right? I mean, it’s certainly going to be a really fun year, it’s going to be a good year, it’s probably going to have some blood moments in it. Because most years do. We all have moments of greatness, we have moments of okay, we have moments are blah, and we have moments of breakthrough. And all of that is great. And when you have momentum behind you, and your business is doing well, then you then you keep that going, you keep that flow going. So there’s this whole thing about having your best year ever, that
Michelle
I just want to rethink that a little bit. Because then we build up all these expectations. Right? And then if January doesn’t turn into your best month, it’s like, oh, it’s like dieting. You know? It’s like saying we, if you have a bad day, your diet sucks. So if you have a bad January, or you didn’t have your best January ever, there’s a self fulfilling subconscious sabotage that goes on that, Oh, I thought January was gonna be my best month ever. And it’s not. So I wonder what that means for my year.
Karen
But how am I going to know if it’s my best year? I’m not going to know that for 30 more years out, right. But what’s cool is that I know that there’s some momentum, the energy is here to help our businesses to help our personal lives. It seems to have really been lacking in the last couple of years and felt like early stopped start energy. And this year, it feels like we’re moving into a space where there is some energetic support for us to really have good years financially and to accomplish things to have things.
Michelle
Blossom the way we want. I hate the word manifest. I used to love that word. I’ve gotten off of it. Yeah, I think it is because I think it’s it’s sort of precludes, first of all it precludes magic. Secondly, I think it sets us up and we use the word manifest to think we’re failing if we haven’t manifested the results of our goals. Yeah, and I just want to add a couple of things to what you said I, when I look at the astrology of what’s coming up in 2019, compared to 2018 2018, was just a perpetual non stop, cycle within cycle of birth and rebirth, death and rebirth, death and rebirth. Like every micro cycle, every macro cycle of every planet has been death and rebirth. And that cycle of death and rebirth is really over. And we do see in 2019, the potential for a lot of momentum.
Karen
But I want to go back and talk really quickly just about something that you said, because I think we get so locked into the materialistic definitions of what is your best year ever, especially in business, and we think that’s money. That’s profit, that’s impact. That’s visibility. And I’m not saying that those things aren’t awesome and cool and great to experience in your business and your business will always no matter how successful you are, have cycles of that. And you’ll have years where you’ll be more visible, you’ll have more impact, you’ll have more reach, you’ll make more money and you will have years where you may just be maintaining the status quo. But I think the piece that causes us to spin off into either despair or you know, we lose our bubble around our business gets burst and we kind of we were joking this morning, you go into your office and you start to feel like every second of your day is like playing American gladiator or running in a corpse and I think I like to think of it as maybe making next year not so much the best year ever because as you said, I’m not gonna know if it’s the best year until I croak let’s make it
Michelle
A meaningful year, because you can’t control. Uh, we can’t control a lot of what’s going on. And I think we’ve certainly all had that experience this year of feeling like, Okay, I did everything right. And still, you know, it hasn’t quite panned out the way I thought. And there are a lot of elements going on outside of our control completely, that we can’t do anything about. And I don’t know how it is for you. But I mean, my clients have been complaining about the government, the energy, the environment, the you know, they feel very powerless. And you might not have power over that piece, you might even have power over, okay, this is a year of foundation laying in your business, because I think we go through those cycles where you just have some years where you’re setting yourself up for growth, but you have to do your homework and lay the platform for it. And that’s not always exciting. You know, sometimes that means you’re writing 567, opt in reports, or whatever that, you know, bore you to death.
Karen
But you do have control over how you respond to it, you can go into your office and say, Okay, I’m going to create a meaningful place a point of contact, or I’m going to build a relationship with people. And because I have so love this place of service that I’m in, the way I develop this point of contact, this beginning relationship with my potential clients is going to be this place where I give love into the world. And that’s where I cultivate meaning. And that’s where I’m going to get excited about showing up for it. And maybe you won’t be meaningful in the material way or started the best year and the material way, but it might be really meaningful in the hard way. And that, you know, I have a new theory, I want to float this out there next year that, you know, we talk a lot about your thoughts create your reality, I think, especially in business, your heart creates your reality. And if you want to have an awesome job, and you have a great boss, and you’re your own boss, and you remember, you are your own best employee and your love your work, you got to be creating from your heart, and that makes it meaningful, maybe not the best but meaningful. And that in and of itself is really the tally of the measure of the value of our day to day existence, I think, yeah, I love that.
Michelle
Create from your heart. And not from your mind. That’s a very intuitive concept, but one that we don’t talk about. It’s you say that and then it feels so obvious, of course, because I want to come in to a job that I love. And especially with the people that we talk with, we’re always talking about, what does your heart say? would intuitively do you feel? Which way do you want your business to go? We’re always talking in those terms. And then it feels like the outside world is always saying, Okay, now write down your thoughts and mentally think about what you want. And so there’s an alignment, I think you what I hear you saying is express your heart. And then I like the piece of writing it down, because I teach that as well. But that needs to come from your heart first. Totally. I would like that I really liked that approach. So what would be the best year ever for you? If it what would that really look like? So what is your heart say caring about what your last year looks like? I think for me in 2019. In fact, I’ll show you guys as you can see this, instead of it on my door back here, I’ve been crafting it out in paper and on paper.
Karen
I have had the privilege of training some extraordinary healers over the past couple of years and serving some amazing clients. And for me a really meaningful 2019 would be for me to find some really brilliant ways to support my practitioners that I’ve trained and my students and create multiple streams of financial support so that they get the material value of the service that they offer. And also, I just really want to watch them and witness them step into the value of who they are and what they bring to the table. Because I think as new practitioners, sometimes they’re nervous and they’re afraid, and they’re so good at what they do. So I want to see them really own that. That’s That’s my where my heart is next year. Nice. Nice. I like that. And interesting because my vision is also about supporting other people.
Michelle
That which would make my business successful. And that’s a piece I think that when we’re goal setting we forget to take into account what is our purpose? What is our mission? Why are we here and it’s really about us, it starts with us. So okay, I’ve got a backup for a minute. Karen, let me think let me just think this out loud because I’m always talking about how your purpose is for you first, because it has to be something that’s so deep inside of your soul. that you have to express it that if you don’t express it, your soul will die. Right? So I come from that place. So our business and our purpose and how that aligns has to be from within ourselves first. But it has to be how we serve others.
Karen
So is how does what we want to express inside of ourselves, help the planet, help others help humanity help the animals help, the food, whatever it is, we’re serving out there. And so I’m enjoying this conversation, even though I’m kind of talking out loud, what are the thoughts that are happening within me right now? Because that’s really how we can best express our heart, I think about what our best year is aligned with your purpose. And then who are you here to serve?
Michelle
My best year also is about how can the people that are in the matrix, especially right, all these peoples that are in here, co working together, building their businesses, launching their projects, writing a book, whatever that is for them? How can I really support them to go have successful best years, whatever that means for them? Totally.
Karen
That’s That’s enough. The heart I think of what what we do here in the matrix is we do give people that support and that sounding board and even just connecting sometimes it’s not, you know, I’m leaving this are you meaning that it’s about the connections that people make in the process of being involved in the matrix that give them support? And even that mirror back to, you know, who is the heart? What is the heart of what I’m doing in the heart of my business? And how can I lead and create a business with heart, you know, so many of our matrix members are what I think in the past, you and I would have called heart based entrepreneurs, you know, they’re doing the work that they’re doing, because they want to serve the world, they take such joy and pleasure out of that. And I think sometimes in the material day to day grind of, Oh, I gotta do my accounting. And I got to figure out which calendar system to use and apply for a TED Talk and go through what the editor just sent me back from my manuscript, which is like hell, right? That in that day to day grind, when they drop into the matrix, they get reflected back to them that oh, yeah, this is why I’m doing it so that your day doesn’t feel like, you know, American Gladiator, but instead, it’s like, oh, okay, these little things that are coming up that are, you know, like, go for go for bopping is the metaphor I keep coming up with lately. You know, when you go to the arcade, you need to go for shopping, that’s how sometimes the day can feel right? It were your instead of doing go for shopping, you’re going oh, these are the things that I need to work through, to bring out the highest expression of my heart in my work. And we always, I think, reflect that back to each other both socially and, and even educationally in the matrix. Yeah, you can’t be heart based in be on a desert island by yourself. And I think, while speaking for myself, and many people in the matrix, we see ourselves as introverts. And we hide behind the computers and we write and we do blog posts, and we may be extroverted. But then we go back to our holes behind our computer. And that works. But or, and you still have to get your workout you have to be visible you if you’re not sharing what you’re here to do with the world. You’re just in your own little bubble. We all are, we have to get our workout, we want to change the world. We want to live in a better place. We want humanity to be more conscious and loving. And so we all have to do our pieces to get our workout in the world because that’s how it’s going to change that’s in a more loving conscious, Planet environment, humanity and so anyone who feels like they’re an entrepreneur and they can’t be part of a community I so resonate with that and you got to push yourself through that I had to push myself through that. We have got to do what we’re here to do the time is right now you have if you feel like you’re stuck if you feel like you need to push if you feel like I don’t know how to get my work out there please contact me. Contact matrix we will help you. This is why I am so passionate about that. This is the time we have got
Michelle
To get whatever it is each of us do has got to be out there in the world right now. No more waiting. No more preparing. No more waiting for timing. The timing is now. That’s my soapbox. I hear you preach sister. Totally. Yeah, cool. Cool.
Karen
So we’re winding down for the end of the year here. However, as we wind down, we’re winding up at the same time. It’s like one of those toys. And our wind up is actually really cool. We have energy behind us. We’re getting ready, both you and I in the matrix. And personally, and every one who’s a member right now, and anyone who’s going to be joining us to really go forth and do what we’re supposed to do what we want to do, what we love to do. And I’m looking forward to this year. I am and I’m looking forward to all the cool things that you and I are kind of creating behind the scenes because we’ve had some cool stuff up our sleeves for next year. So do we do? Hey, thanks for conversing this morning, Karen. Thanks for being here in conversing with me and reflecting heart back. Sothanks for listening.
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